How to Deal With Your Daughters Natural Hair Struggles

(Last Updated On: March 22, 2015)
By DiscoveringNatural

As a mom to two girls with different hair needs, it can be quite challenging figuring out what works for both girls and myself. Sometimes, what works on one child might not work on the other.

Struggles with Lil Sis’s hair I always refer to Lil Sis’s hair as “Diva” hair. One day her hair can like a product, then the next month or season, her hair totally does not react to the product well. She has hair that ranges in the 3c, 4a-c. Her hair lacks shine if the right product is not applied to her hair. Her hair prefers to be co-washed instead of shampooed. The main struggle we have is that her hair does not retain styles and it tangles very easily. If I do cornrows, after 2 days, it looks a bit messy. This is one of the reasons why I do not cornrow or flat twist her hair. She is also very tender headed, so any pulling or tugging is out of the question. I wash her hair while it is in twists to keep it from getting too tangled during the wash process.  In the summer season, her hair loves Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie. However, in the winter, we switch to Shea Butter mixed with some essential oils because her hair hates SMCES during that season.

Struggles with Big Sis’s hair Big Sis has a more kinkier texture of hair. If you are into hair typing, you can say that she is mostly a 4C with a pinch of 4B. Her hair absorbs products well, she has normal hair porosity. The main struggle we have with her hair is with her napes. This tends to be the area that gets dry too quickly. She also has Hand-in-Hair (HIH) Syndrome (HIH), which causes her to always pick at that area. We are working on that.  The other issue we have is that the ends of her hair tends to be a bit dry. I have to seal her ends with Shea Butter to help lock in the moisture. I have not yet found any product that her hair does not like.

It is important to cater to each child’s hair care and needs individually. If you find that something does not work for a child, make note of it, try it at a different time or season. It might work then.

What challenges do you have with your kids’ hair?

About Sola

Sola is the mother of two natural hair girls, known to all, as “Big Sis” and “Lil Sis”. She is a blogger and advocate for helping parents with caring for their children’s hair and also their own hair. Sola is passionate about helping other people discover what being natural is, hence why her blog and YouTube channel is known as “DiscoveringNatural”. She enjoys spending time with her family and sharing life experiences with her friends, family and YouTube friends on her vlog channel, “DNVlogsLife”. Sola’s natural hair journey started with one year of transitioning. She had already transitioned her older daughter the year prior and was fully equip with doing so herself. The information she gathered during this time was valuable in educating others following the same path to returning to being natural. As of November 2013, Sola has been two years natural, however, the amount of knowledge she has learnt from this journey has been enormous. Her goal is to help others have a successful natural hair journey, and also teach parents how to manage their children’s natural hair.