(Last Updated On: December 10, 2018)

There’s a popular misconception amongst the black hair community that it’s hard to grow Black hair. Infact, a friend of mine once told her daughter that if she wants to have long hair, she will have to change her skin color because Black people can’t grow long hair. I quickly corrected her and gave her some of my hair products to use on her daughter’s hair. Her daughter’s hair was relaxed then, so I recommended that she should stop relaxing her daughter’s hair and start deep conditioning her hair weekly. I also sent her a few videos and referred her to this blog.

In this post, I want to share a secret that parents with daughters with healthy beautiful hair use to keep their daughter’s hair healthy and long. Mother’s such as @DiscoveringNatural and @growinggirlsTV are proof that your daughters don’t have to be mixed to have healthy beautiful hair. They can be Black mixed with Black and still enjoy beautiful hair.

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So if you’ve always wondered how some kids managed to have such long beautiful afro kinky hair, let me let you in on a secret.

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In this post, I want to take you through a complete guide on how to effectively deep condition your daughter’s hair for maximum moisture retention


What’s deep conditioning?

This is when you apply a deep conditioning treatment to your daughter’s hair and leave it in for a few minutes. Deep conditioners are more effective when you use heat. It can be hard to get some kids to sit still for more than two minutes, which means that asking your daughter to sit under a hooded dryer can be impossible. Instead, you can use a thermal hair care deep conditioning cap. They have caps for kids, with kid-friendly designs. To get yourself and daughter a matching cap like @mommynmehairjourney below, please Go HERE to order yours. They are also offering a 10% discount with free shipping on orders over $50, which is pretty much two hats.

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#Repost @mommynmehairjourney ・・・ NaNa & I being silly in our @thermalhaircare deep conditioning caps! These hot-head caps help to trap moisture into our hair while we’re deep conditioning…it essentially replaces sitting under a dryer. This week, I tested out the “reverse-washing” method on our hair, which is when you condition first, then shampoo. For us, I oiled our scalps, deep conditioned our hair, then shampooed, and followed with a regular conditioner. Stay tuned to see the results later this week! #MoeAndNaNa #HairFlourishingJourney #MommyNMeHairJourney #DeepConditioning #HotHead #ThermalHairCare #HeatedCaps #Curls #CurlyHair #CurlyHeads #HealthyHairHabits #NaturalHair #CurlyQueens #CurlyPrincesses #CurlyMommy #CurlyBaby

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Who should deep condition

Everyone with hair growing on their head should deep condition. However, deep conditioning is essential for naturalistas due to the drying nature of our hair. If your daughter has type 4 hair, she will need a deep conditioning treatment at least once a month.


Why should you deep condition

You see, the reason why it’s so hard to grow Black hair long is mainly because coily black hair breaks very easily due to it’s drying nature. There are two main benefits to deep conditioning. One is that it strengthens your hair and the other is that it nourishes and soften your hair. This means that if your daughter is experiencing hair breakage or extremely dry and thirsty hair, she will need an intensive deep conditioning treatment.

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What age should you start deep conditioning

You can start to deep conditioning your daughter’s hair after she turns one. However, if your daughter’s hair starts to turn kinky, hard, tough and dry at a younger age, you can start deep conditioning her hair at whatever age you feel comfortable with.

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Is it okay to deep condition babies hair?

Yes, it’s okay to deep condition your baby’s hair if they’re over 6 months old and her baby hair have grown out. However if your baby still have her soft baby hair that’s easy to handle, then you don’t need to deep condition her hair. You can just use light natural oils such as olive oil or jojoba oil to keep her hair soft.

How should I deep condition my daughter’s hair?
  1. First, you have to shampoo her hair with a moisturizing shampoo, then, apply a deep conditioning treatment to her hair, apply a shower cap and have her wear one of these thermal hot heads, to add heat to her deep conditioning treatment. Let her wait for at least 20 minutes for the deep conditioning treatment to work through her hair shaft.
  2. Then, rinse off and apply a leave-in conditioner and styling product and style her hair as usual.

You can also check out the video below for a video tutorial on how to effectively deep condition your kids curly hair.

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What are the best and safe products for kids hair?

I haven’t written a post yet on the best kids hair products. However, I have put together a list of kid friendly hair products on my amazon page. You can check it out HERE.

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Do I need to care about protein & moisture balance for my kids?

If your child is above five years old, you can start to incorporate some protein treatments in her regimen. For this, I recommend light proteins such as the ones I recommend HERE.

Deep conditioning DO’s and DONT’s for kids


Deep condition your daughters hair at least once a month

Always add heat, for this I recommend a thermal deep conditioning cap which you can get HERE

Allow the treatment to sit in her hair for at least twenty minutes

Use one of my recommended products for kids HERE

Be patient and gentle when styling her hair


Leave the deep conditioning treatment in her hair overnight or for too long

Forget or be lazy about deep conditioning your daughter’s hair

Be too harsh when handling your daughter’s hair

A few last words

Deep conditioning is a very easy step to add to your daughter’s regimen. If you want your child’s hair to be healthy, long and beautiful, you NEED to deep condition her hair very often. Infact, if your daughter’s hair is unhealthy at this point, I recommend deep conditioning her hair every single week. For a complete guide on the five steps I always recommend for a successful wash day, please check out this POST HERE.

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