The truth is that, natural hair can be manageable and very easy to care for, if you, the owner of the hair, actually take care of it on a regular basis. Natural hair only seems difficult and unmanageable to newbies who are just starting out on their hair journey and are still trying to get to know their hair. Not to say that all newbie Naturals have a tough time starting out, because I definitely didn’t, but I’ve come to notice this trend amongst several newbies.
While perusing the world wide web, I stumbled upon a recent episode of “The Ngee Show“, where the host of the show, Ngozi, talked about her experiences after doing the big chop. In the episode, Ngozi talked a lot about how unmanageable her hair is, and the fact that her natural hair is very difficult and hard to work with. She also shared all the limitations that comes with her natural hair.
So, based on her current “frustrations” with her hair, I decided to share these 5 simple ways on how you can simplify your natural hair and make it more manageable.
1. Adopt a coily hair mentality and drop your straight hair mentality.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said that “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result”. You see, when you are transitioning to go natural, or have recently done the big chop, you have to be prepared to face all the hair issues that you were avoiding in your relaxed days. Since coily hair is the exact opposite of relaxed hair, you have to be prepared to achieve the exact opposite results that you had with your relaxed hair.
In her show, Ngozi mentioned about her natural hair shrinking up and it’s annoying. But the truth is, natural hair is SUPPOSE to shrink up, expecially when it’s left loose.
2. Be prepared to invest a lot of time, patience and efforts on your hair.
Have you ever wondered why the grass seems to be greener on the other side? Could it be because your neighbor actually puts in the time and effort to tend to his garden whereas you don’t? If you want to achieve success in anything in life, you have to be prepared to invest time and effort in it, and you must also be patient enough to reap the reward of your labour.
This means that if you’re the type that likes to get your hair braided for 3 months at a time because you just want to “forget” about your hair, then it’s best that you stay relaxed. Likewise, if you’re the type that only washes your hair every 3 months, then please don’t go natural. You also do not want to go natural if you’re lazy about everything and you don’t even touch your hair at all! Ok ok, so I’m being a little dramatic.
What i’m trying to say here is that if you want to fully enjoy the beauty of your hair, you have to be willing to put in the time to thoroughly cleanse and deep condition your hair on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. African hair only becomes difficult and unmanageable when it’s dry and not cared for properly. To learn about how to soften your hair, please make sure you read this post which takes you through a step-by-step approach on how to deep condition your hair.
3. Keep your hair in a protective style for as long as possible
When left in it’s natural afro state, kinky coily hair can be a task to work with. This is why a lot of Black women would prefer to wear “protective hairstyles”. However when worn loose, kinky curly hair, like any other hair texture will tend to wrap around itself to form ‘annoying’ tangles and knots which can be nearly impossible to remove.
To avoid this chaos, you should keep your hair in a stretched state such as two-strand twists, cornrows, or flat twists. When your hair is stretched out in a style, it lacks the freedom to shrink up, tangle, break or form any knot.
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4. Exchange all the negative perceptions that you have about your natural hair for positive ones.
One of the reasons why a lot of women have come to believe that their natural hair is difficult and unmanageable can often be linked to their upbringing on the topic of Black hair care.
In a previous post, I gave a broad scenario on the upbringing of a typical African child as it relates to hair care. In that post, I explained how a young child is made to believe that her hair is too tough and unmanageable, and the only way to ease the pain that comes with such difficult hair texture is to chemically straighten it or braid it.
Therefore, someone who grew up with this knowledge will be convinced that her natural hair is too difficult and unmanageable to handle, regardless of how easy her hair texture actually is.
What you actually have to do is to drop all the negative thoughts and descriptions that you have about your hair and learn how to properly care for your hair.
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5. Have a disciplined hair regimen.
Learning something for the first time isn’t always easy. There are some people that might find the initial stages of their healthy hair journey to be more difficult than others, so I really cannot give you tips on how to make things easier.
One thing that I can tell you however is that your hair only becomes easy to handle when you’ve changed your thoughts about your hair. A great man once said – “Don’t remove the kinks from your hair, remove it from your brain” –Marcus Garvey (1887-1940)
How do you keep your hair easy and manageable?
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